Should I Elope? Tips To Help Answer This Question

So you’ve heard this term called Elopements before, but you aren’t completely sure what it exactly means. You’ve heard your grandmother talk about her “wild” friends who ran off with their partners and secretly got married, disregarding the permissions of their families. But you’ve also seen recently a distant friend who shared photos of them getting married at their favorite mountain spot with their closest friends and families.

But what even is an Elopement?! And do I want to do one?!

This blog is going to tell you a few things about what Elopements are, some of the many ways that they can look, and finish with asking you a few questions that could help lead you into your decision about whether you should elope or not!

Elope – e·lope/əˈlōp/ Definition: a marriage conducted in a sudden and secretive fashion, usually involving a hurried flight away from one’s place of residence together with one’s beloved with the intention of getting married.

Above you’ll find a common definition of an Elopement, but it is SO much more than that. An Elopement is an intentional experience created for a couple. It could include hiking up a mountain peak or heading to your childhood home’s backyard. You can elope with some of your favorite family and friends, or you can escape just the two of you.

Do you consider yourself slightly more introverted than the average human being?

Do you prefer the company of a few close friends versus large groups and parties?

Does the idea of planning a huge wedding with hundreds of guests at a large venue just sound plain horrible to you?

Do you crave having an intimate space where you can comfortably express your vulnerabilities and love for your partner?

An elopement might be the perfect thing for you.

Your elopement can be something simple like hopping over to your local courthouse and doing a quick civil ceremony. It could also be an epic multi-day outdoor adventure that includes hiking, dance parties and so much more. AND it can be anything and everything in between!

The beautiful thing about an elopement is the sole focus of that day is you and your partner. It isn’t about entertaining guests with cocktail hours and reception speeches. It’s not about pleasing the desires of in-laws and pressures of societal standards. It is a moment in time curated and customized to exactly how YOU want your day to look. You get to create a space for vulnerability, intimacy and so much fun.

You get to walk away from your elopement thinking “Wow, that was exactly how we wanted to get married. It felt like us“.

Below you will see a gallery of a small example of what your Elopement could look like. These photos are of two of my dear friends, Matt and Angelica. On a whim helped us put together a fun little “faux-elopement” while we discovered some new locations around Mount Rainier National Park. The beautiful thing about this afternoon was how much love was radiating through the air. These two have been together for a few years now, and you could just feel how deeply and passionately they cared for one another; even if this was just a pretend version of a wedding ceremony.

Do you think an Elopement is right for you?

Let’s chat about that and make some magic happen.

You could also check out another beautiful Mount Rainier Elopement I photographed and officiated!

  1. Hanna S says:

    Gorgeous images and great information regarding elopements. The location you showed is absolutely stunning with those wildflowers!

  2. Lexi says:

    Beeeaautiful images! And I love how your blog is laid out!

  3. I love the images you included in this post and the advice as well! If I did it all again I’d totally elope!

  4. Sienna says:

    Elopements aren’t for everyone, but this article is a wonderful way to help get couples to consider if it’s the right avenue for them!

  5. Stacy says:

    Very insightful questions for someone to ask if they want to elope! I also love the photos that accompany them.

  6. Heather Huie says:

    This is such a great guide to helping couples navigate if eloping is right for them!

  7. Dylan says:

    I love all of the laughter and dancing, and really enjoy the word “faux-elopement” 😉 Mount Rainier National Park looks epic and you captured it beautifully.

  8. Shanna says:

    This is great! Elopements certainly aren’t the perfect fit for every couple and this post definitely outlines some helpful questions to ask themselves before deciding for sure. AND beautiful gallery – love all the wildflowers!

  9. Alex & Kelly says:

    Wow these elopement photos are so beautiful! The wildflowers, and the mountainous backdrops. so so good! Such good info too for any couples wondering if they should elope. It’s not always an easy decision, so this is a great resource!

  10. Traci says:

    Eloping is the best experience everywhere!

  11. Kat says:

    What a beautiful spot to elope! The wildflowers were perfect for your photo shoot…I want to be there!

  12. Dionne Kraus says:

    I love how you broke down exactly what an elopement is and could be! Also, how much that term “elopement” has changed for the better in recent years. And hello, GORGEOUS Mt. Rainier photos! Great job.

  13. Dreeeeeamyyy! This couple looks like they had so much fun, how sweet <3 I love how you emphasized that elopements are such great options for the reserved, the private or introverted couples. Until I learned what an elopement could really look like, I was pretty certain I would just never get married!!

  14. Kristen says:

    Wow! What a view! There are definitely things to consider when planning out a wedding day to figure out what best suits your wants.

  15. Molly says:

    This day looks so fun! Hopefully some of your couples are inspired to elope! Eloping is the best (I’m biased…that’s what I did!)

  16. Cassandra O says:

    THIS. IS. SO. GOOD!!!! For anyone on the fence about eloping or just wants more insight about what it means to elope nowadays, this is super helpful!

  17. Jesse Hohnson says:

    I love how you start this with the definition of elope, and then expound on it from there and really dig into what it can look like and how it can match them and their vibe.

  18. Jesse Johnson says:

    I love how you start this with the definition of elope, and then expound on it from there and really dig into what it can look like and how it can match them and their vibe.

  19. Maaike says:

    Those fields of flowers are aaaaah sooo gorgeous! 😀
    Love the style of your website, so fun and bubbly! pretty sure your couples must have an amazing time with you! 🙂

  20. McKenna says:

    Beautiful images, and great content about elopements! I think it is so important to make it more known that elopement does NOT have to be in any way shameful or rushed, it is such a beautiful experience 🙂

  21. Liz Koston says:

    This is very helpful and insightful for couples thinking about eloping. Your photos are also beautiful! Love the location.

  22. Naomi Levit says:

    Such a beautiful location for an elopement with the wildflowers! Love all the info you shared about eloping too!

  23. Connor B says:

    Excellent definition! I like how you included introverts as a main elopement demographic. As an introvert, I totally agree with everything you said, and I actually wish my own wedding was an elopement instead! Also, gorgeous elopement photos, well done!

  24. Ann says:

    Definitely love how elopements can be exactly what a couple wants it to be – there is no set rules or guidelines to follow if they don’t want to. ❤️ And when out exploring beautiful areas like Mt. Rainier incorporating LNT principles – so much magic can happen! ❤️ Gorgeous photos! Love it!

  25. Julia says:

    This is such a handy guide and a great tool to help couples decide if eloping is the right choice for them.

  26. Andrea says:

    Awww! Mount Rainier National Park one of my favorites and you nailed it! And your blog is going to help couples to understand the meaning of eloping and if is their jam ;)!

  27. silvia says:

    Totally in love with the whole gallery + your amazing words on elopements <3

  28. This is so beautiful! I am OBSESSED with all of the wildflowers. Also, I love that you said elopements are intentional experiences created for couples. I think that larger weddings can sometimes get muddy with what everyone wants (mom, grandma, the guests, etc.), but I agree that eloping is intentional for the couple. Such a beautiful way to put it.

  29. This is a really good tip especially to those new to the blogosphere.
    Short but very precise info… Thank you for sharing this one.
    A must read post!

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